Tuesday, October 5, 2010

it's beginning to look a lot like...

I'm working steadily on the next issue...I don't want to say a date out loud yet but just picture yourself flipping through it while you raid your kids' trick or treat bags.

I'm really, really excited about how things are coming together. I have some really wonderful friends who've said they'd help and they're making the most adorable things. And I have a few things up my sleeve that I hope you'll love.

I was going through each of the projects in the current issue one by one but I sensed that enough was enough. If you haven't seen the magazine yet, please check it out. And if you'd help me spread the word about it, I'll love you forever. (I will anyway)

Alfredo is napping and I have so much to do. I wish I could keep making stuff for the next issue but instead I have to clean up the heaps and piles all that lovely work has created to make room for some company coming tomorrow.

p.s. Rich thought the tone of my post about Alfredo from last week was a bit sharp. And he thought it was strange that I seemed to be reprimanding you. I hope you didn't see it that way. I was just fretting a bit. Alfredo knows his story very well and knows that we are all his family, including his Papa and his Mama. He just doesn't see our differences (I would love it if he never really did)

20 comments:

glitter mom said...

I don't think you were reprimanding anyone, you were giving a small lesson on good manners. My child doesn't look like me either, she is from China and at 14, we have had years of inappropriate , thoughtless comments. It gets old after a while, and you are probably much kinder than i have been on occasion.

Evelyn said...

Your post about Alfredo was fine. I remember my son coming home from 1st Grade in tears because some little snot named Joey told my son Brian that Brian didn't have a family because there was no dad or brother/sister in his family drawing. Brian never realized he and I were "different" from traditional families ... it took me a long time to convince Brian that we sure were a family just like any other ... I still get angry at "Joey" and my son is an adult now!

Gigi said...

A friend of mine has a story that is one of my favorite ever. She has 3 boys, with no dads in the picture. She is a very blond woman with very white children. On of her best friend and father figure to her children is a lovely black man.One of her kids came home from school one day after Martin Luther King day, and she was telling him that Hugh was a very distant relative to Coretta Scott King. His eyes go huge and he said "no way. You mean Hugh is black???" He only saw Hugh, and never realized that he was actually black. He was just the great guy that hangs out with them.
I always find that story to be a wonderful tale of what we do, and don't teach out children to see.

vivian said...

Hi AMy, cant wait to see your next issue! I know there will be lots of really neat things in it.
as for your post about alfredo, I didnt think it sounded that way. You sounded irritated.. which I think all of us could understand.
have a great week
hugs
vivian

Suz said...

Frankly, Amy, I didn't feel you were reprimanding us at all, or that your tone was sharp. It was a good a story to hear and I appreciated the many comments, too. It isn't something I have personally experienced so I was really interested. Jud and I strongly considered the adoption of a child from Korea. Time passed and all of a sudden we were too old. I wish we had been able to do that. I would have loved another child...or two! With so much in the news about bullying, I would think the effect on a child could be similar. If people are making non-accepting comments, the pain could hit to the core because it is such an integral part of identity. I think more people need to be made aware of this. I would imagine remarks could be made in some innocence.

Suz said...

Frankly, Amy, I didn't feel you were reprimanding us at all, or that your tone was sharp. It was a good a story to hear and I appreciated the many comments, too. It isn't something I have personally experienced so I was really interested. Jud and I strongly considered the adoption of a child from Korea. Time passed and all of a sudden we were too old. I wish we had been able to do that. I would have loved another child...or two! With so much in the news about bullying, I would think the effect on a child could be similar. If people are making non-accepting comments, the pain could hit to the core because it is such an integral part of identity. I think more people need to be made aware of this. I would imagine remarks could be made in some innocence.

Helena said...

I didn't take it as a reprimand, nor did I think you were being sharp--it was just a good reminder to keep one's curiosity to one's self. :)

Michelle @ Periwinkle said...

Hello, i just went and looked through the online magazine, and I think you did an amazing job! wow, it was fun to turn the pages, and it had some great ideas, I intend to try a rick rack flower very soon. BTW, i have 2 adopted children from Russia, who do look like us, and it is sometimes awkward when I mention that our younger daughter has some fetal alcohol syndrome problems. Not sure what I make of it all. Anyway, have fun with Alfredo.

Heather said...

Your post was FINE! You didn't offend me or anyone else it seems...
Can't wait for the next issue!

Fresh Word From God said...

Really a wonderful Blog. I love your posts...

May God Bless you...

Anonymous said...

delurking. Amy, I loved your post! It really hit home with for me as I've been raising my niece since she was a few months old. she calls me by my first name too. I can't tell you the number of crazy questions I get sometimes in front of her, sometimes not. People want to know where her parents are, why they aren't with her, how long she's been with me. were they married? crazy personal stuff! I'm sure some of it is meant well but it is usually a stranger asking. It's OK to be curious but I think it is best to tread lightly when you don't know someone. I have no problem discussing my niece/daughter but I have no desire to get into my family history with strangers. Thank you for a terrific and thought provoking post. Hugs to your Alfredo : )

Molly said...

Hello Amy! I didn't think that your post was reprimanding, you were just saying how you felt :) Which sometimes is good to let out! Hope you have a great time with your company :)
~Molly P

Anita Kehn said...

Have enjoyed your interesting posts. People can be cruel ~ don't let them bother you ~ that is their problem. I have two daughter-in-laws ~ one is Mexican and the other Filipino and you would be surprised what sort of comments are made. (I am white) I feel like my life is much richer because of my foreign daughters. I also have a Muslim (I am Mennonite) friend and she is so wonderful. I love all my wonderful friends that are not like me. People do not think before they speak and we must overlook them.

Who's J.E. Dickerson? said...

Actually, when I read your post, I thought it was a very gracious way of reminding folks to quit being idiots! Love reading your stories and the photos of Alfredo make my heart ache... in a good way! He's a lucky kid.

Amy said...

We live in a world now where "family" means lots of different things. I am adopted and although I am half-Mexican I grew up with everyone telling me I look EXACTLY like my parents. (many of them not knowing I was adopted!) It was a twist of fate that I happen to look like the true birth child of my parents. Now, I am a mother to a biological child that no one things is mine because he looks so different!

The fact is that none of it matters. We are all family. And because I am the only child of an only child, there are people in my life who are no relation to me that I think of as my family because I don't have anyone else. My son's godmother is an Anglo woman with an African child. My aunt is an Anglo woman with two Chinese children. We have a family of the heart no matter what is looks like on the outside

There will be people who will make insensitive comments that come from a place of misunderstanding. Just so you are clear and Alfredo is clear, it won't really matter in the end.

-Amy
Crafting by Candlelight

P.S. Waiting on pins and needles for the next Inspired Ideas!

Swirly Designs said...

We found about your site/e~magazine on the Mary Engelbreit blog. Really neat stuff! If you ever in need of featuring handmade Holiday ornaments we would love to collaborate with you on a future project.

Swirly Designs

Sadie Lou said...

Amy, isn't it funny how during the busiest times in our lives (when we have small children) we find ourselves to be really busy too? We take on all these projects and ideas and we squeeze our hobbies and our dreams into any free second were they can fit...and then, some of my empty nesting friends tell me that they thought they would have all this free time once their kids were all grown up and then they discovered they are even busier still!

I don't buy it.


LOL. I think someday, I WILL be an old lady and able to find huge blocks of time for crafting. A girl can dream!
~Sadie

Becci said...

I loved you post and love your story. I have been following it since before Alfredo came to your heart. I have a child in a wheelchair who is cognitively fine so when people make comments he understands everything. Sometimes I find people say things out of genuine curiosity and not knowing how to ask. I look at every comment as a chance to open the door and share our story (my son's body was damaged by his vaccines). It is only recently that he has started to be bothered by others but it is mostly staring that upsets him. It's funny he never thought of himself as any different than anyone else because we raised him exactly the same as his brother and sister but it was others who made him realize how different he was. Don't apologize for your post...people need to think before they speak!

claudine hellmuth said...

amy - where did you get those little trees?? I need one for my dollhouse!!
xxoxox

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